Most women eventually learn that being in a relationship with a man based solely on his potential is one of the riskiest decisions they can make. Unfortunately, many stumble upon this truth far too late—after they’ve poured everything they have into someone who wasn’t ready or willing to meet them halfway.
This realization often comes after the damage has been done. They find themselves burned out, emotionally drained, and with nothing left to give. They’ve lost themselves in the man, the relationship, and perhaps even the responsibilities of raising children. What’s left is a hollow version of who they once were, with little faith in love and a fear of ever trying again.
They’re stuck in an emotional abyss, unsure of how to climb out. The fear of being alone or starting over keeps them trapped, while the weight of disappointment and regret makes the journey forward seem impossible.
To the young women reading this:
When you see the signs, pay attention. Don’t ignore the red flags or convince yourself that his potential is enough to sustain a healthy relationship. The truth is, potential doesn’t pay the emotional bills. Either he is or he is not.
Don’t be afraid to choose yourself.
Don’t be afraid to take the time to love yourself, to get to know who you are, and to stand on your own. There is strength in solitude, and it’s in that space of being alone that you can truly refine who you are. Use that time to heal from the hurts that tried to break you, to rediscover your passions, and to embrace all the beauty that life has to offer.
The lesson is simple but profound:
Don’t give all of yourself to someone who has nothing to pour back into you. Love is meant to be reciprocal, not one-sided. You cannot build a relationship—or a life—with someone who only offers promises of what *might be someday.
If you find yourself in a situation where you’re giving endlessly and receiving nothing in return, know this: it’s okay to walk away. It’s okay to let go.
Walk away before you lose your heart and soul in the process.
Potential is not enough.
You deserve a love that is present, fulfilling, and real. You deserve someone who sees your worth, values your efforts, and meets you where you are. But first, you must see that worth in yourself and refuse to settle for anything less.
Choose you. Always.